When a relationship starts or comes to an end, we always hope that all parties involved have the capacity to keep their emotions intact. Love is a rollercoaster and falling in love with Mondays isn’t that far off from this concept. Considering, February is coming to an abrupt end I would be remiss if I didn’t touch on how important it is to our Monday, let alone our work week to speak about E.Q., and no I didn’t forget the “T”, because I am not referring to “E.T.” the movie. I am referring to E.Q., Emotional Intelligence.
Daniel Goleman coined the phrase…emotional intelligence, “or its casual shorthand EQ, has become ubiquitous, showing up in settings as unlikely as the cartoon strips Dilbert and Zippy the Pinhead and in Roz Chast’s sequential art in The New Yorker.”
So, what does EQ have to do with February? Or falling in love with Mondays? Or even the way we conduct business and personal relationships? Absolutely everything! Take a walk with me in how we apply this concept to our everyday life, business and personal.
1. Awareness: EQ has everything to do with being socially and self-aware. Being “aware,” is a reoccuring theme in life. I try to remind staff / management staff that we all must be aware of the impact emotions have on those around us, whether it’s our emotions or others that play a vital part in what others feel in return. At which point you begin to…
2. Reflect: Kind of like the M.J. song “Man in the mirror.” We all have to stop and reflect… 1. Do I have emotional strengths? And if so what do I need to improve on? 2. How do I allow things that happen to me affect my current mood and/or decision making?
You can only gain valuable insight from the questions above.
3. Pause: Recently I have started to approach this step like a project management step, the Trello App., which I would have to agree with Melanie Spring about Trello: The Best Project Management App...Ever.” Trello utilizes the “pause” step in their PM process/task. Pausing, is when we have placed an action “on-hold.”. And we can’t move forward until we figure out what process will be placed on this action. This steps helps most from making a vital decision permanent based on a temporary emotion.
4. Manage Your Emotions: “Self-control is strength. Calmness is mastery. You have to get to a point where your mood doesn’t shift based on the insignificant actions of someone else. Don’t allow others to control the direction of your life. Don’t allow your emotions to overpower your intelligence.” Morgan Freeman . When you focus on your emotions in the moment that would normally cause you act adversely is having the foresight on what your goals truly are.
5. Demonstrate Empathy: I think that the vast majority of people believe that demonstrating empathy means that you have to show that you agree with what the other person is saying or doing. Untrue, it means that while you may not agree you understand what possibly made them, that person, react the way they did. I find myself saying in some circumstances “I respect your feelings, however…” When you show you understand you show that you aspire to build a deeper understanding on how you can improve on your relationships with that person.
6. Keep Your Commitments: I have noticed that most contracts, nowadays, tend to never stay binding. Remember when your word was your “bond?” Well that doesn’t seem to ring true anymore. Breaking promises tend to do the most harm. Making it a habit to keep your word can change a situation in an instant. You develop a strong reputation and build formatable relationships with businesses and business partners.
7. Stay Away From Manipulation: Having a high EQ can benefit all in the long run, however, this can also open you up to possible sabotage. For instance, when someone tries to manipulate your EQ for personal gain.
While, we have always heard that “money rules the world,” which may very well be true, we should always consider how emotions played a huge part in the way money does rule the world.Kind of like how in every relationship you have to develop a foundation of trust. We shouldn’t underestimate the importance of our emotions and emotional processes in any relationship that we cultivate, especially in business.
February has been a month of passion, compassion, and intelligence, all three play a huge part in how we effectively maintain relationships. Hopefully, February brought you closer to loving Mondays.
“Find your Project to be Purposeful and then make your Passion your business.”